Forgiveness Is Freedom

“Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.” Matthew 5:7 (NIV)

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Defined by Wikipedia: Forgiveness is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.

Forgiveness does not come easy to many of us, but it is necessary to live a fulfilling and healthy life. We can focus on holding onto the offense, mistake, difference, or injustice, or we can ask God to give us the grace to let it go and be free from its stronghold.

More importantly if you want the person who hurt you to continue to be in your life, it would be best to forgive him/her quickly. It doesn’t really matter who did what, how you thought it should go, or who should apologize first. If you truly want to mend a broken relationship, be slow to anger and pray.

Look deep into your heart and recognize that we’re all broken, wounded and understand everyone makes mistakes.
“Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. Matthew 18:21-22 (NIV)

We forgive because we are to be obedient to God, and to be obedient is to walk in love, be merciful and full of grace.

In Landmines in the Path of the Believer, Charles Stanley says:

We are to forgive so that we may enjoy God’s goodness without feeling the weight of anger burning deep within our hearts. Forgiveness does not mean we recant the fact that what happened to us was wrong. Instead, we roll our burdens onto the Lord and allow Him to carry them for us.

To forgive is to be free.

God Bless,



Understanding Grace

Trading Phrases

Sometimes I struggle with doing what is right all the time. Recently I was tested in a huge way because I wasn’t sure what the outcome would be. I had a hard time dealing with the fact that a family member was upset with me regarding a disagreement we had (I gave her some advice that she did not agree with.) I immediately apologized for my aggressive unsolicited advice that I thought I should give this family member after she got upset with me and left her to decide what would be best for herself.

We spent several weeks not really speaking to each other, mostly because I was afraid of how to restore the relationship after our disagreement and she thought I would continue to give her unsolicited advice. I was having a hard time dealing this particular strife in my family. I’ve had lots of loss in my life and was like there is no way I am going to lose her too (especially over something so minor). I asked God to help me be more loving and forgiving to this person, but nothing was changing. My anxiety was starting to get the best of me, which was really driving me crazy because I spent the last year really confronting and managing my fears. I’ve developed a stronger habit of casting my “worries” and trusting God.

So this was really a struggle for me. I was like what is going on…

Turns out all I had to really do was ask God to give me the grace to handle and mange this situation. So today I was driving home from work and stressing out about the phone call I know I needed to make to this family member. And I prayed. (Some may wonder why I thought I needed to be the one to make amends and restore the relationship…well tons of back story would have to be written, but for this blog’s sake, let me just say it’s because family is everything to me.) I asked God to give me the Grace that I needed to communicate with her to restore the relationship and help me keep my family together. We both have different communication styles and only God could help me deliver the words that would repair, restore and heal our love for one another.

I called and left her a message, but she did not answer. A short time passed and my younger sister called me to tell me that she got a text from this family member. I immediately reached out to her again and God helped me to deliver the right words. I told her “I am here for you and you’re not alone.”

It worked.  We’re having lunch this weekend. Sounds simple right? It wasn’t. Sometimes one communication style bumps heads with a different type of communication style. BUT Grace is the power of the holy spirit that enables us to do whatever we need to do with ease. 

Thank you God! I owe you all the glory. I didn’t realize how powerful God’s grace was, nor did I really understand the true meaning of it. You can’t have TRUE peace without understanding grace. A hard lesson for me to learn, but glad I went through it! 🙂

God Bless,


Love Never Fails

Today is a special day! 10 years ago today, my little sister married an awesome guy. And even though our mom wasn’t there to watch her walk down the aisle, we felt her near. Her spirit filled our hearts with love, peace and happiness while we celebrated and danced the night away.

Below is a note my sister posted on Facebook this morning and thought it was so special…

MY HUSBAND-A is a man of character. Who understands commitment and does more than his share to make his family comfortable and safe. And I adore him. MY PARTNER-is a man who is patient, optimistic, caring and wise. His sense of humor and support hold me up when I can’t do it myself. I am grateful for him. MY FRIEND-is the only man with whom I can share my deepest secrets and know they’ll be safe. Time with him is always good. I cherish him. I am so thankful he came into my world, for if he hadn’t, I would have never known the kind of happiness he brought into my life…

I think being married for 10 years is a wonderful blessing. To know how fragile life can be and to witness “two lives joined together in friendship and united forever in love” was amazing to say the very least. I think their story is inspirational.

We had lost our mom back two years before. They were in their early 20’s. Our parents were divorced, my brother-in-law’s parents were  also divorced.  Society was skeptical, but I was optimistic.

I was so happy for my little sister the day she got married, I saw God shining down on her and creating a family for her with a great guy. And today, I am still so very happy for her. They’re both amazing and I admire them so very much. Their love, marriage, commitment, family and home keep me inspired everyday.

Their love continues to grow stronger and their commitment to their faith has also helped. When I see my sister, brother-in-law and my two nephews in Church praising and worshiping God. My heart smiles.

I pray for God to continue to bless their lives, their marriage, their family and their home and my two adorable nephews always.

Lover Never Fails – 1 Corinthians 13:8

Hello world!

Welcome to my new blog. I’m so excited to finally start doing something I’ve thought about for a long time…sharing my journey to the true meaning of freedom.

God has been good to me and I want to share it with you. Stay tuned!

God bless and keep you,