“Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.” Matthew 5:7 (NIV)
Defined by Wikipedia: Forgiveness is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.
Forgiveness does not come easy to many of us, but it is necessary to live a fulfilling and healthy life. We can focus on holding onto the offense, mistake, difference, or injustice, or we can ask God to give us the grace to let it go and be free from its stronghold.
More importantly if you want the person who hurt you to continue to be in your life, it would be best to forgive him/her quickly. It doesn’t really matter who did what, how you thought it should go, or who should apologize first. If you truly want to mend a broken relationship, be slow to anger and pray.
Look deep into your heart and recognize that we’re all broken, wounded and understand everyone makes mistakes.
“Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. Matthew 18:21-22 (NIV)
We forgive because we are to be obedient to God, and to be obedient is to walk in love, be merciful and full of grace.
In Landmines in the Path of the Believer, Charles Stanley says:
We are to forgive so that we may enjoy God’s goodness without feeling the weight of anger burning deep within our hearts. Forgiveness does not mean we recant the fact that what happened to us was wrong. Instead, we roll our burdens onto the Lord and allow Him to carry them for us.
To forgive is to be free.